Maternity leave I assumed would be as simple as applying for annual leave. Nup! I am taking 12weeks mat leave at half pay. Then 4 week maternal leave which have to be taken at full pay. Then the 18weeks parental leave (PPL) from centerlink which has taken me three tries online before I gave up and printed the 69pages of forms. But PPL cant be approved before the baby is born and you submit another form and the birth cert then it takes another 3weeks after that for the payments to start, luckily I don’t need it for about 10weeks after bub. Then I found out that I have to be on leave without pay during PPL which means I don’t accrue annual leave which shot my plan of taking annual leave at half pay next year
Now comes the annoying part. Initially this all worked out at full pay to 6months. A colleague mentioned that I was taking a year off. I replied that no I was only taking 6months. She looked really confused and said that everyone had said that I was taking a year. I have no idea how this rumour started as I have only ever intended to take 6months and had told everyone that several times. I mentioned it to my manager and she said she thought I was taking a year…You might be wondering why this annoyed me. Well because its clearly completely made up. Someone has just decided im taking a year despite the fact that my manager had already approved my 6months and I had told everyone this and rather than listening to me when I told them 6months they listened to this other person
Now after the leave without pay incident I am taking 9months to try and stretch it out a bit. I told my manager this and she replied with, oh I thought you were only taking 3months…Honestly why do they bother asking how long im going to be off if they just keep making crap up and ignoring what I say. No matter how many times they ask me how long ill be off they just decide in their own minds how long I should be off and tell other people that. Spreading rumours in other words! Then we get those who tell me to take 5yrs off without pay, I tell them that no I need my pay check, they just say oh but you will want to be at home, folks think about these things before you say them. I highly doubt they could live with no job for 5years. So why assume that having a child makes things cheaper and just assume that I would quit my job. People can be so self righteous without even realising they are doing it. How about rather than commenting they listen to what I say when they ask and assume im not an idiot and have in fact thought about it some what and know what I want to do with my own life. They of course don’t know that I fully intend to quit at the end of my leave because the idea of going back makes me want to kill someone. I will be using my mat leave to find another job, possibly part time where I can earn an income and not hate waking up every day.</p>
I really think the baby industry needs to address this. I bought a change pad today. Its white plastic and basically pritty boring. So i jumped online to buy a cover for it. For some unexplainable reason they are all made out of cotton or fleece. Now to me this makes about as much sense as a fabric toilet seat. Its going to get all mannor of bodily substances on it. When i googled a solution it says if you want it to be water proof just dont put a cover on it…well gee thanks google. Apparently the done thing is to buy two covers and just use them with disposible liners and wash the cover every few days…does this strike anyone else as a waste of time? Why would you not make the cover out of that plastic covered cotton they make travel change mats out of?!?! It makes zero sense to me. I think, once again, im just going to have to make my own darn cover. My mat is basically plastic filled with padding so a simple pillowcase design with a zip at one end would surfice. Its back to Lincraft for me this week.
Symptoms: Heart burn. Pulling when i roll over. Kicking.
Baby: 30cm long. Can hear me and may have hair.
9weeks until im on mat leave thank goodness. My work seems to have taken a leave of their senses and are annoying me more than usual. I thought it would be nice to have an easter morning tea so sent out invites asking those who wanted to come to chip in $2 for some hot cross buns. there are less than 10 of us so i thought it would be a nice little get together. No. They are all complained about the $2 because last year our Director bought the buns and they feel she should do it again this year. I was pritty dumbfounded that 10 smart women would rather someone else paid their $2 for them…I told them that if they want her to pay then they can ask her themselves. Frankly im sorry i even brought it up.
Oh and im also trialing a friends suggestion of using a little Tea tree oil on my problem areas to combat the hundreds of pimples that have sprung up since about week 8. I have never had an issue with pimples before i got pregnant and its grosing me out. They cover my face, chest and upper back. With any luck this should help.
I used to assume that pregnant women were tired because of the added weight of baby. Nope. I have only gained 6kg so thats not enough to slow me down. Let me attempt to explain what being pregnant feels like.
Imagine that you normally run, in gym clothes, for about 10mins on a speed of 8 on the treadmill. Got that? Ok, now imagine running in trousers, wearing a diaper, carrying a dog, for 20mins at double the speed wearing a coreset after attending an all you can eat buffet…still feeling good? This is what i experience everyday.
I never realised or gave the whole thing thought beyond the bump. The baby sits low making walking uncomfortable like someone is sitting on your lower abs (which they are). Then you are incubating so you are running a constant tempriture. Then your energy has to not only fuel you but the growing of a complete human being in 9months. Add to this that your heart is pumping twice as much blood as it normally would which makes you feel faint and odd at the same time. Then baby is compressing all of your organs into half the space they normally take up which has serious implications for your bowel, stomach and lungs, restricting all of them. Think about when you were a teenager and how much you longed for sleep because your body was growing so fast, well we are growing two people, it takes it out of you! added to that hormones, which for guys think on the moment where you realise you cant watch the final 20mins of your fave game, while you have a migraine and you dog just died. You simultaniously want to kill everyone for breathing and burst into tears at random intervals. I often cry over commercials for candy bars. Then you have to pull it all together and get the house ready for a baby which you will have to keep alive for the next 20years or so.
Now that i have conveyed this rollercoaster of becoming a mum, now let me tell you my issue with becoming a mum to a boy. There are 101 patterns out there for girl clothes and about 3 for boys. Go to the shop and girls have 3/4 of the shop and boys get a small selection of tshirts and pants. Not very exciting. My sister pointed out that boys can have little jeans, waist coats and jackets, well yes but i imagine its not very fun trying to run or crawl around and play as a 6month old in jeans and a waist coat… So i got online and the selection isnt much better unless you want to buy clothes for around $60 each.
Plan B: Make my own. I am scavenging any and all patterns i can find that are slightly interesting and plan on trying my hand at making clothes. I have only done super simple things before so it will be an adventure. Im also planning on selling them in my store on Etsy, more on that to come. I plan on using fabrics that will move with bub and not restrict him and also not be covered in trucks or dinosaurs.
Whoops forgot to post last week. My excuse is that i went to sunny (it actually rained the whole time) QLD to visit mum. Over said weekend i seem to have popped. I went from looking fat to looking pregnant. Several people commented that ‘wow you look pregnant’ when i got back and the belly rubs have started. Its odd because i dont mind other pregnant women rubbing my belly but if a non pregnant woman tries it it urks me. Anyway. Popping means that is now harder to bend down to pick things up off the floor, to shave my legs and getting in and out of the car. I actually had to move my seat back yesterday because i realised my belly was touching the steering wheel. Im concerned that by 34 weeks when i go on leave i will be too big to drive and may have to go off work earlier which I only have enough leave for 2weeks.
Symptoms: Heart burn is receding but still around. Gas. Kicking. Soreness around my lower belly when walking. Cant sleep on my back anymore as my hips hurt.
The good life blog
Baby: Can now hear sound and motion. He is about 28cm long. He is kicking me low at the moment which is odd because my last scan showed he was head down.
It was pritty funny going up to see mum. I had been attempting to knit a baby blanket but due to my short attention span had only completed about 1/20th of it. When i showed it to mum she paused then went to get the one she had been struggling with but had almost finished. It was the exact same blanket, even the wool she used was the same! Thank goodness because i was getting no where fast and she is an experienced knitter and said that the pattern was way harder than she had imagined. So now i get my dream blanket for no effort, horray! I decided to turn my non effort into a neck warmer.
Utterly Organised blog
I also finally got a tall boy for the nursery and spent last night stocking it with clothes. This i think is the fun part. Shopping was ok but getting to get it all out and sorted is so much fun because i can picture myself in the room dressing bub. I realised that i hadnt bought as many clothes as i had thought and it all fit nicely into the draws with plenty of extra room. Then my future sister in laws sister also gave me two bags of 0000 hand me downs (her family had kids before her so she had no one to hand down to) and wow. I have only gone through half of one bag and the draws are full! The clothes are fantastic, some look like they were never worn and are all my taste. Sadly as bub will only be 0000 for a few weeks if that he wont have nearly enough time to wear it all so im handing down my hand me downs to my friend who is due the same month as me. Hopefully between us they will get some use.
Unpacking also gives me an idea of what i still need in terms of storage and baby items. I have one toy, but assume i will get more as gifts, and i have way too much stuff to fit in the draws so will need some hanging organisers and maybe one of those cube shelves for toys and shoes. I want to try and be super organised now becuase i know there is little chance of it happening after bub is here. Unfortunatley we are renting so some of the cool ideas i have found wont work because i cant create shelves or screw magnetic strips on the wall.
Also just occured to me that the third trimester is fast approaching. 3-4weeks to go (27weeks)
Hormones. You think PMS is bad, imagine having it for 9months! Monday night i yelled at the dogs then burst into tears getting out of the shower. No reason. Then any time someone asks me to do something at work i feel like yelling at them to leave me the hell alone and let me do my job! Grrrrr I also burst into tears in Best and Less, while listening to the radio, and imagining going into labour on the loungeroom floor. Im a mess folks! My BD doesnt believe in hormones and just thinks im being a shit head, i mean homestly how can you not understand hormones, you cant make this shit up!
Symptoms: Heart burn and hormones. Kicking. Heavy feeling. Out of breath walking short distances or up a few stairs.
Baby: About 30cm long. Feudal height 22cm which is bellybutton height. Has got all the essentials and will start building his fat layer soon.
My friend finally had her baby last week. 7lbs Girl named Ariana. We are so excited for her, she already has a 4yr old son to another daddy. When he saw his sister he demanded to hold her than asked if he could sing to her and burst into a round of Old McDonald has a farm lol I love kids.
I am also considering doing a cert III in Children Services while im on mat leave. I wont stay where i am and the idea of coming back makes me want to cripple myself. Im not really interested in casual work but if i can get a position at a small centre maybe 3 days a week in the baby room that would work great as bub could get a place there with me and i would feel like i am actually accomplishing something each day rather than being asked to do meanial jobs that really dont need doing in the first place.
13 weeks until Maternity leave!