Motherhood week 10

I realised i haven’t done an update on me and Rue since he was born so here we go:

My weight: Back to normal weight as of week 2 (108kg) but excess skin still there so wearing one size up.

Bubs size: weight 5kg, length 56cm, head 40cm. He is slipping down the growth chart which is a little concerning but seems happy so the nurse isnt too worried. Wearing 000.

Baby development: Smiling, laughing, holds head steady when held, hates tummy time, sucking fists having about 100ml milk 6 times a day.

Work status: Back to half maternity pay after 4 weeks of full pay. Mat leave ends April 2015, not looking forward to it 😦

Current goals:

  1. Get Rue to drink 150ml each feed.
  2. Get Rue into his crib as he is out growing his bassinet.
  3. Tighten abs.
  4. Lose 10kg to get under 100kg.
  5. Eat healthier
  6. Spend less money on food.
  7. Encourage Rue to hold his head up during tummy time.
  8. Pay off credit card (maybe this month)

Rookie mistake

I had a big shop at Spotlight on friday, i was rather annoyed because none of the sale items were adding up right on the docket. So i went to the front register and apparently it was a members only sale…i pointed out that it didnt say members only anywhere in the store or on the sale signs. In the end i signed up to get 40% off a $100 quilting set. I didnt want another card in my wallet but i saved $50 so i wasnt going to say no.

Anyway. One of the things i got was a basting spray. which is basically a spray adhesive for joining all the quilt layers while you work it. I started spraying it and thought it smelt rather strong. BD agreed and opened a window then re read the can, do not inhale, use only in well ventilated area. Rue was right next to me! BD moved him to the dining room and we opened all the windows. I sprayed it twice more and BD decided it was too risky and moved Rue to the bedroom. I dont think it was too bad as i felt fine and i was breathing it in, but i will have to work out another way to use it as the lounge room is the only space big enough to spread the quilt out….I feel guilty for doing it next to rue but im sure it cant be too bad for only a minute or two. I think the warning was more dont spray it in your face or constantly. I only sprayed it a few times and its an open plan area so not too enclosed. I still feel bad though for not thinking to move Rue away 😦 Lesson learnt.

Quilting

Im not sure if i shared the quilt i attempted to make for Rue. Its sort of less a quilt and more of a floor mat without the edges bound (havent got around to it.) But its great for all surfaces because the filling is quite thick.

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I am attempting a proper quilt this time though. A simple abstract design. I didnt measure it, just playing it by ear. I made a few boo boos where i have had to replace one panel and i made the three vertical stripes too short so will need to put squares in the corners but i really think it will turn out good. Have to wait until next pay to get some filling and a rotary cutter and board so that the next one will be more even. Im hoping to pick up a quilting book at the life line bookfair this weekend too. I got some books for Rue, about 10 for $28 including where’s wally, goose bumps, board books and a baby cook book. Sunday though they often say fill your bag for $2 to get rid of as many books as they can. Will have to see if i can time it well to get the deal.

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I have almost finished the top so will post a pic when im done.

Aqua tots

Im struggling. I think on one hand that as soon as i can teach Rue to float the safer he will be. On the other hand he cant even hold his head up yet so thats way too soon to start swimming…

So i did what i always do and googled it. Apparently there is a program called Aqua Tots in Canberra for 6weeks – 6month old babies.What they teach is comfort in the water and motor skills. So its not actually swimming. 6-12months they start doing safety in the water. Frankly i think i can just as well teach him to be comfortable in the bath tub. Its deep enough for him to kick and submerge and float around. And it serves a double purpose in that he is clean after!

The key to baby swim classes seems to be that the water is heated to over 32degrees and that there is a change table. Personally i have always loved swimming. I was in swim squad when i was about 7 until the pool closed. As an adult I have gone off and on doing laps but i get really frustrated at how over crowded the pool is. So the times i can go and not have to share the lane with 10 other people, yes 10, is the middle of the day when people are at work. Doesnt work when im at work too…My other set back is currently that i dont have any swimmers. I have always had trouble finding swimmers not only in my size but that cover both my boobs and ah bottom not to mention that arent floral and have enough scaffolding in the boobs to hold up a house. I found a pair a few years ago which advertised as for long torsos, they fit well but the boob area was still too big and i had to cut the straps and make them shorter to tighten the top so my boobs didnt fall out. For now i have forgone the one piece and have purchased some mens swim shorts (they dont make them in my size for women) and some high wasted bikini bottoms. I have a top i got before i was pregnant so im hoping it fits. It was a little snug when i bought it so it may be too small. If it is ill have to jump back on ASOS and get a top too. They thankfully go up to a size 22 for most swimmers but the boobage is always a risk when buying on line. As for Rue i got him a cute one piece at Target the other day so he is all set. I dont like the idea of babies showing too much skin, or even kids, so he will always wear a rashie (swim top) and shorts when he gets older.

As im writing this i searched for images of plus size swimmers and was pleasantly suprised at what i found. Besides the ones that i wouldnt agree a plus size gal should wear, shows a bit too much skin for my liking. There are some super cute ones!

From Always for me: Again concern that i wouldnt fill out the boobage.

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I love the sailor one and if anyone knows where to get it please let me know!

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I might actually get this one from Simplybe. i love a halter neck and it comes in two lengths! With hidden tummy support.

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High Tea

My sister is getting married next month in Turkey. She is also getting officially married in Canberra in January as records in Turkey arent that good so they decided to have a ceremony there for his family then get officially married here which is nice for those, like me, who cant get to Turkey. Today was her hens party. She had a high tea for us with children, then is having a dinner and drunken Karaoke tonight. The tea was fantastic and we all had a blast. There was a wonderful blooming tea which we were told was ready to drink when the flower sunk, we waited and waited and turns out what she meant was started to sink.

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Farming for fathers day

Both my family and BD’s have ‘farms’. BD’s parents have a hobby farm with some cows and goats and my father and grandfather have large sheep farms. So for fathers day we decided to go out and see our extended family and visit the cousins and aunts and uncles. Rueben is the first of the generation on my side so there were some very excited cousins and my uncles and aunts were super excited to meet him.

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The last baby on that side was my cousin who is now 12yrs old. There was alot of nervousness about holding him, i never really understood that. You dont drop things normally why would you drop a baby?? Anyway we got lots of cuddles and Rueben got to meet his Great grandfather. Not many people can claim that. He actually has a great grandmother (my side) and another great grandfather (BDs side and Ruebens name sake) but both are bed bound and i havent been able to get out to see them.

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Rue did really well on his first night away from home. He missed his afternoon nap but thankfully did sleep that night. When we got back home however he has been waking more often at night so hopefully he settles soon. I really love the farm and am super glad that Rue was able to come out and see it. Its uncertain what will happen to it once pop isnt with us but he is healthy and i hope he is here for many years to come. 

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So happy fathers day to BD, dad and pop. Rue is well loved 🙂

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Free our kids

I saw a review on this blog site yesterday and i have been reading up on it. Essentially a woman in the UK decided not to buy anything for her 2yr old for a whole year. She set up swap pages for mothers to trade clothes toys and shoes and even tried to home make all of their food rather than buying pre packaged things. Im a big believer in this. So much of the baby market is over priced and frankly kids dont need that much stuff. They dont need hundreds of toys, they are happy with what they have. And other mothers around you will like wise have toys their little ones grow out of and are happy to swap for variation. As for food i have always been suprised at how much pre packaged food we feed our kids. Those are the habbits they form for life, we need to teach them that food doesnt come from a packet. Frankly, lets face it, baby pures are not that hard to make.

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“Grown-ups, give yourself a slap and ask yourself: when did we become so dependent on all this spending and all this crap to raise our kids? And isn’t lots of it, really, getting in the way of the real job: just… you know… interacting with them ourselves?What does it all teach them, after all? Do we want them to learn that maxing out credit cards and keeping up with trends is the meaning of life?”

I would say that 90% of the clothing Rueben has are hand me downs. The cot was second hand, the chair one we had in the house already. Even half of his toys are either my old ones or ones my mum picked up second hand. The only things we got new were the car seat, the cot mattress, bassinet, and pram. I would say thats not a bad effort. 

But i will admit that i am often lured into the cuteness of the displays at the shops. Hey, im only human and i only get a few chances in life to buy my children baby items. The latest purchase was a pram protector. I figured it would make the pram last longer so im saving money? Right? But in my defence its hand made from Etsy, in Australia. 

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Clothing review

Being a new mum i was given alot of hand me downs from friends. I originally went for clothes that i was familiar with, press studs, onesies, terry towel. But now that we have tried a few options i am going to give you my opinion on whats best and what works for us.

First up. Singlets. We never used them because they dont fit over his head and we always keep the house really warm so it wasnt an issue. 

In terms of warmpth fuzzy onesies are a god send as they keep their feet warm without having to constantly put their socks back on every 5mins as they wiggle out of them. 

Hoods are cute but not very practical as they often move around and end out swamping bubs face. 

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Zips are your friend. I was a press stud girl until we were given a onesie with a zip, so much faster!

There are onesies which have the opening down one leg and nothing on the other so you have to squidge their little leg out to change them. I doubt its very comfortable to the little ones. 

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I terms of cute photo outfits i like long sleeve onesies with out legs then leggings over it. My fave at the moment is a cream top  with a whale and stripped leggings, i love sailor theme!

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Hind sight

I was thinking back to my time in the hospital today. Initially i was completely happy with everything. But now that i think about it they did drop the ball in a few areas which ultimately affected me. Firstly when Rue was taken to the nursery i wasnt updated on his condition for nearly a full day. I asked the nurses each time they came to check my blood pressure for an update and each said they would check for me. None came through. It wasnt until BD came in that evening and we asked another nurse that any thing happened. The nurse asked how bub was and we told her we hadnt heard since he was born. She was surprised and asked if we had gone to see him, i pointed out that i couldnt get out of bed and we didnt even know where the nursery was. She took BD up to see him and BD came back with a nurse from the nursery who apologised as she hadnt realised we hadnt been updated…Considering i saw a woman wheeled in there in  bed with oxygen a few hours after her c-section i cant understand how they couldnt walk the 20meters to my room to update me.

The second thing that happened was in regards to breastfeeding. I dont think any effort was made to assist me. They told me to express 4 times a day then left…no mention of how to get the colostrum to bub. I mentioned it to them that evening and they brought some syringes to express into and again left. So i expressed into one but had no idea how to get it to Rue. I tried to give it to a night nurse and she said she would bring me some labels as they had to be labelled before they could be given to him. The next day i had to ask about the labels before i got them so Rue had already gone a full day without breast milk. Then when i finally got some up to him i was told that i may not have any milk for a few days due to bleeding. Rue was finally brought into the room by BD that morning because i sent him up to check because again i hadnt heard anything about his condition since that night. I attempted to get him to feed but he wouldnt. The nurses didnt offer any help and when i told them he was having trouble latching they just nodded, not offering to get a lactation consultant for me or anything. Plus we could only have him in the room for an hour so i didnt have long to get the hang of it. So i continued to express but the nurse would only come to take it once a day so most of it went to waste. It wasnt until the last day that i was offered a breast pump and they just assumed i wouldnt breast feed. I saw premmie babies in there breast feeding, why didnt they offer me assistance with it? Added to this they took the liberty of giving him bottles and a dummy without checking with me, both of which i have heard can inhibit bubs ability to latch. When i finally did use the pump they were really surprised at how much i got out, so really i could have fed him easily but they never bothered to check.

Looking back i really feel like i was cheated out of the opportunity to breastfeed and bond in those early days. I heard from friends whose babies were in the nursery and they were given ALOT more support, even offered medication to increase their supply so they could express and not have to use formula. The most i was told was that i could go to a mothers group on a Friday where there would be a lactation consultant…this is two weeks after he was born! So yes, looking back i guess i blame the hospital for my not being able to breastfeed. Considering how much they emphasise how its better for the baby they never even gave it a chance for me. Next time i will be on the case straight away and ask for a consultant to come and see me every hour until the baby can breastfeed!

Anyone had a moment of hind sight where they realised something wasn’t right after all?