Toddler (and mummy) taming

i have been exhausted keeping up with rue latley. Mostly emotionally. He seems to be having breakdowns left right and center, he wont listen, he hits and throws. I put it down to terrible 2s. Then i was telling mum about it today and she said i cant let him get away with it. I cast this off as she lives in another state and doesnt know how i parent. But then i stopped and thought about that. Is rue behaviour because of his age or is it something else? 

I thought about it and realised that each time he has started acting out in the past its been because i wasnt doing something and he was actually ready to move forward in his development and needed me to move forward too. 

Last week i realised that he is prefectly happy to take his own dishes to the kitchen after meals. He will pick food up off the floor with a little encouragement. So today i thought ok maybe im not giving him enough credit and he needs me to guide him more. So i asked him to clean up. He happily sung ‘ok clean up’ while putting away his toys! I assume this is something he has learnt from daycare. Then while i was giving him a bath the tv shut off and rather than turn it back on i did some yoga with him on the floor (im not a fan of the floor as the rug is encrusted in doghair) but he was so happy. 

  
My realisation is that its not terrible 2s as much as i needed to guide him as a young child, not a baby. He needs more of my time not just me being in the room but me actually playing with him. I am watching a few youtube videos about toddler taming which have been helpful, im already doing some things but not others. So im going to make a few changes. For one im going to have tv off time each day where he gets my whole attention. Even if its just an hour or two a few times a day. I will also give him instructions and wait until they are followed, rather than just doing things for him. 

I already practice calm mum calm baby but sometimes when im tired i let it get to me rather than followiny my own rules.

  
Ill let you all know how this goes! 

Holidays

im at my wits end right now. No nap and a psycho toddler + lack if sleep last night = frayed mumma. Not to mention i was really excited to think i could start a course in childcare, the two people i told were both non enthused so now im bummed. They dont seem to realise that i need a litte enthusiasm. My life consists of working then comig home to a screaming toddler. I need something to get excited about! Even if it doesnt work out at least im trying to bring a little spice to my life right?!?  Coupled with the fact that we decided to re home our dogs but my manager who was meant to collect one of them this week keeps giving me the run around, if it was a stranger i would have told them to bugger off by now. 

So yes, iv had enough of this month. Rue was teething last week and inconsoleable crying, not sleeping at all for a full 5 days. I just feel like banging my head on a wall somewhere. I know it will get better but when! Ugh. I have the next two weeks off and am wondering if they will be relaxing or stressful. Oh and my foot aches so much when i walk i hate even standing 😪 

Ok rant over. Heres to next year and hopefully a calmer toddler and maybe someone will get excited about my study…

  

Weightloss

i was thinking about weight loss latley and i came to the conclusion the reason people struggle with their weight either gaining or losing is because there are so many conflicting theories in how to eat that we get confused and just give up. 

I often try the weight watchers method but then i think well i shouldnt be eating sugar and carbs. Maybe i shouldnt be having gluten, but then i know its healthier to cook from scratch. All foods in small portions have been shown to be better than cutting things out. Diet shakes are great but high in sugar. Lite and easy just delivers meals but its really expensive and you dont get to cook which i really enjoy not to mention you only get 1-2 choices each meal. What about high protien, fruit has sugar is that ok? Maybe i should just have meat and vegies but corn and peas are high points on weight watchers. Full cream and fat is better for you but twice the callories. Cows milk is bad for you but you have to drink it for healthy bones. 

You see what i mean?? Its so confusing! Not to mention people who say you have to work out 5 times a week, who has time for that?!? Really i struggle to stay in one frame of mind for more than a week. I start well then think well maybe this other way would be healthier? Sure i could find a set meal plan but then what if i dont feel line chicken for dinner, what if i want to go out for lunch with family? 

Gah

2.5years old

rue is nearly two and a half! Im really loving this age. He has started becoming a real little person. He takes instruction and understands us so much better than even a few months ago. He will walk with me holding my hand most of the time and mostly stops when i tell him too (we are still working on this one). He will start swimming lessons next year and toilet training over christmas. 

He loves babies and takes care of his cousin giving him toys when he cries. He pats the dogs when they let him andrides them like a horse when he catches them. He loves painting and coloring but mostly loves water! 

He hates having his nappy changed and always wants another story before bed. He loves baths and will try and climb in fully clothed if you arent careful. 

   
   

Cheese

this is a short story about cheese. Did you know that a bag of grated cheese is $100 per kg. no joke. Its $9.87 for 100g if you look at the label. A block of cheese on the other hand is $9 for 1kg…so this week i will be splurging and buying a handheld electric cheese grator. For less money than 1kg of grated cheese. Its an investment for someone who struggles to grate cheese. Just $40inc postage. 

  

Firstaid kits

i have several first aid kids that i have picked up from various places. One thing that i always do is open them and inspect the contents. Why? Firstly you dont want to be searching for things when someone is bleeding out. You should always be familiar with it before you need it. Secondly i have often found that they are missing quite essential items. Most of my kits only come with one bandage, one set of gloves and one non stick dressing. Now if im at the scene of an accident i know i will need several of each of these. Non stick dressings especially. I also find the tape they include is hopeless at sticking anything. I much prefer sports tape which can be used for securing bandages rather than messing around with safety pins.

They also dont come with face masks if you have to give cpr. One hazard with cpr is that the person can vomit while you are trying to do it. You dont want that in your mouth! A face shield is a must, you can get them for your key chain now too. I also like to throw in some pain killers incase help is a while away. 

  
If you think about the most likley medical emergencies you will encounter think about what you will need for them and pack your firstaid kit accordingly. 

And remeber, pack it before an emergency!

Stock pile

last month was my first month of monthly shopping and stockpiling. I learnt alot and im going to try and apply it to next weeks/months shopping.

Firstly i have basics but there are a few areas im lacking, toiletries mostly shampoo and conditioner. They are normally very expensive so stocking up when they are on sale is a great idea. Condaments and lunches. I realised last month that i didnt get any lunch foods as i just relied on having leftovers which i usually didnt have. Things like stock powder and garlic are big things in my cooking and i ran out of both this month. Herbs and spices are on my list this month. 

Below is my stock pile after one shopping trip and at the end of the month. As you can see you can get ALOT of food if you spend your money wisely. Would you believe i only spent $250 for the month? With this much leftover at the end of the month i could almost go another month without having to shop. 

Also the taco kits are nearly 6months old now as i bought heaps when they were on sale for $2 each and didnt use them. Important tip, only buy things you actually eat often.

 The other thing i never thought of is stockpiling stationary and school supplies. Rue doesnt start school for another 3years but as he will be in school for atleast 14yrs it really makes sense to buy supplies at the back to school sales. There is no urgency to get it before school starts back so wait a few weeks and things get dirt cheap! Note books for 10c each and glue and scissors for 50c. Even for those who have kids in school already why not stock up for next year. Art supplies are also usually on sale around this time. Your kids will loose and break things and you will save a heap of money having those sale items on hand rather than having to buy them at full price later in the year. Plus, stationary! I do love piles of stationary. 

Jobs

so its no secret that i hate my job, alot. In 17months im up for long service leave which means not only have i stuck this out for 10years but i get 3months paid leave.

This means i can finally leave my job and not loose out on all that hard slog. But in order for me to do that i will take a pay cut to where ever i choose to work next. I have started preparing now for what i need to do to make it work:

  1. Pay off any debt i have, this reduces my monthly expenses by about $300.
  2. End lease on car and get modest $5000 car to replace it.
  3. Have enough savings to see me through 3months incase the new job doesnt work out.
  4. Have a house deposit

This may seem simple but they are all high cost items. If i start now im really hoping i wont have to work past my long service leave. It would be soul crushing to have to stay just for the money 😣 

Self defence

alot of the prepping websites i read encourage guns for self defence. I think statistics speak against this because you are more likley to shoot a family member, yourself or have the asailant take the gun off you and shoot you. Not the best plan. In Australia we cant have peper spray or tazers so we have to get creative. Here is my list of weapons better than a gun:

  1. Knife. Ordinary kitchen knife, they are in every home, you can have many of them and they do alot of damage. Can be thrown or weilded irrationally in a crazy slashing fashion.
  2. Vinegar. Works like pepper spray, just throw and run. Also good for cleaning up after.
  3. Bow and arrow, can go long range and you can reuse the arrows, great for hunting, not many people know how to use one so less chance of them using it against you, silent, you dont need a licence, really hard to shoot yourself, kids cant draw it so no accidents.
  4. Frying pan, no joke, a bonk on the head and you can kill someone, also handy for cooking.
  5. Box cutter, can lay a person open down to the bone with just 1/4inch of the blade out. Can be consealed in your hand with only the blade protuding. 

There you go. No need for guns, ever.