The statistics

Can you tell the theme of the next two weeks. When will bub arrive!? I have been googling, I know a dangerous habit, the different factors for going over or under your due date. ImageSo far it looks like despite people saying most first time mums go over their due date, that’s actually not right. Its more that second and third time mums are less likely to go over. Does that make sense? FTM are 64% likely to deliver on or before their DD.  Only 36% go over and only statistically by one week. From what I can see the majority of babies are born between 39-40 weeks. So according to this I have about a week to wait…BUT as I have said before I have two due dates. My last menstrual period (LMP) date is 4th July. Which makes me more likely to have bub this week. The reason they changed it to the 13th was that my first ultrasound put it back a week and a half. Im not convinced its accurate as I would have gotten a positive home pregnancy result way before the box says its possible. My MW said that they usually go by the LMP but as I had already applied for leave from work based on the 13th (Didn’t see the MW until 12weeks) she would record that as my official DD. Having said that when I went for my last ultrasound two weeks ago I couldn’t help but notice it said that I was measuring 37+5weeks when I was actually 36+3.

I also looked up if GD makes for earlier deliveries. Apparently no, but there does seem to be a high rate of doctors recommending induction for GD patients around 37-38weeks. I don’t want to be induced as I am not a fan of needles and drugs or gods forbid a C-section.  Apparently having GD also doubles your chances of getting pre-eclampsia. I hadn’t heard that, its amazing how different doctors tell us different things. A heap of other women were also told that GD causes babies lungs to be under developed, which the rest of us weren’t told…I always take things I find on the internet with a grain of salt but apparently when the other women in the BabyCenter group asked their doctors about the lung thing they confirmed it. Maybe they only mention it on a need to know basis?

In other news. I bought a second hand baby sling for $15 yesterday because we aren’t using a capsule and the pram still hasn’t arrived, so its a bit of a plan B. I have heard they aren’t the best and its about 50/50 those who like them but I needed something! We also got a heater for the nursery but after testing it last night the room only got to 16deg with it closed off and the heater on high for a few hours. That’s not going to be warm enough. Its a small room and the heater is a 5 bar oil heater which I have used in the past and its been really effective. So im testing it again today with the curtains closed. Im hoping I can get it up to at least 20deg. I can always warmly dress bub and it will only really be an issue at night when the main heater is off (its at the other end of the house so no point running it all night).

 

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Week 17 or 18

At my antinatal appointment on Friday she informed me that they actually get my due date from my last menstral cycle which makes me due on the 4th. This is just bloody confusing. Why wait until you are halfway to see the clinic because now i have no idea when im due as they want to use that data yet everyone else is using the 13th. Thats 9days difference! You might be thinking thats not that much and what does it matter, bub will come when it wants to. Yes thats true but all of my appointments have been booked off the 13th and my leave through work is booked off the 13th and i dont know if they can be changed. This means that im going on leave 2weeks later than i should be…So for now she has left my due date as the 13th but now i have no idea which date to go off 😦 She said they have to make sure its accurate as they need to know when to induce me if i go over.  

Symptoms: Heart burn. I take a quick-eze everynight before bed. The heat is also making my hands and feet swell.

Baby: 13cm and about 170g (if im 17weeks).

I also found the nurse very patronising. I of course got the fat talk. For you thin girls the fat talk is when the doctor, all doctors, break the news that your over weight (really, i didnt realise!) and that its bad for my health (no shit) and that the best way to lose it is eating well and exercising (they must think we are idiots) then they tell you all the side effects of being fat. I generally zone out for this whole talk. I mean im 108kg did they think i was under the illusion that i am skinny??? They also assume you dont eat veg or fruit so give you a phamplet on the food pyramid. My GP gave me the fat talk about a year ago and ordered a whole bunch of tests then had to eat her words when she realised i was perfectly healthy and eat better than my 56kg sister. Steriotype much.

So anyway after the fat talk she tells me that the hospital needs to know my weight and the guy will talk to me about the epi as it can have risks when your fat. I told her that i didnt want an epi. She just patted my shoulder and kept talking. I was shocked that she was being that patronising, shouldnt she be encouraging natural birth? the pat was essentially saying, yeah you are young and wouldnt understand that of course you will be getting an epi. I couldnt wait to get out of that office.

I always hate seeing new doctors because you have to sit there and give info and be told things you already know. If you try and interrupt and say you already know all that they just smile and keep going. I had a girl at the gym once take me through the mandatory session on how to use the equipment. I told her i already knew how to use it all, she just looked me up and down and said, recently? I almost slapped her. I was actually a bit of a gym junky and went to the gym 3 times a week. So i really wish that people would stop generalising their care of patients and at the start of the visit actually ask, do you need info on…Unfortunatley mine told me all about breastfeeding, what i can and cant eat, how big the baby was, the fat talk, I could have saved her the trouble as i have already read up on all of those things and didnt need to be told again. So i just sat there saying, yep, ok, yep and wasted an hour of my life.

Not to mention this is the most uneventful pregnancy ever. Im not sick, or big. Everyone just keeps telling me to enjoy it, im like, enjoy what, nothing? Enjoy people asking me how the baby is and i say i have no idea? Or they ask how im feeling and i say fine and they glare at me like this is such an insult to other women or that im just saying it to be annoying. I had an akward conversation with my aunt who cant have children but has had several missacrriges. I told her how im feeling fine and didnt get morning sickness at all. She looked at me like i was a horrible person and had just told her I was the queen of the world, then she just said enjoy it and walked off. What am i meant to say to that, sorry im feeling so healthy?? Lie and tell her i feel like crap just so that she will be happy?   

 

Test #8 my eggers is preggers

We aren’t telling family until Christmas (13weeks) so don’t blab people! But I had to tell someone so why not total strangers lol. Not sure how the BD feels about our impending parenthood. He didn’t seem enthusiastic when I told him but that may just be him being a guy.

So lets do a system check:

Weight: 108.7kg

Week: 5

Symptoms: Sore nipples, slight nausea but not enough to be worrying about. Bloated.

I need to make a doc appointment, I’m thinking the 12th of Nov as i have the day off which will be about 7weeks. I believe first scan is at 10 weeks then Christmas is 12/13 weeks which is when we are telling the family.  13weeks is the end of my first trimester so the end of morning sickness (if I get it).

According to the internet I’m due on July 4th 2014.