no, im technically not a single parent but as my partner is only home one day a week it often feels that way. So here are my top tips to being a single parent (most of the time):
- Batch cook. You never know when something will crop up or your kid will throw a fit so cook in bulk and eat easy during the week.
- Have many snacks on hand. This comes back to batch cooking, muffins and cookies can be healthy dinners if you make them yourself.
- Teach your child to be self sufficient. As i was running out the house this morning i looked down and realised i had forgotten to put rues shoes on, thabkfully he had put his boots on himself.
- Keep spares in the car. Shoes, for when you forget them, changes of clothes for when you get to daycare and realise how dirty your kids clothes are.
- Odd socks are fine
- Have some activities on hand for crazy times. These are things you can pull out and guarantee you a few minutes to wash the dishes. (Water frozen in a bowl, add salt and watercolors)
- When sanity disolves, get out of the house. Take the kids for a walk or just go for a drive to drivethrough. A change of scenery clears the crazies.
there are lots of things people dont tell you about being a mum. Here is a list of things i learnt or do:
- Woolies deliveries are a god send when you have to do a big grocery shop or have heavy items. Helps you stick to a list and a budget too.
- Pick a day of the week to cook up big batches and dont be afraid to give your kids toast for dinner occasionally.
- Its ok for them to go to bed in their clothes. Pajamas are just clothes after all.
- They will eventually go to sleep so you may as well make use of the time you have to be awake at 11pm by watching that show your partner hates.
- Cleaning can wait. If you are tired, the laundry does not have to go on today.
- If your kid brings you a book. Stop what you are doing and read to them. This goes for toys too. There will be time for tv and facebook later.
- Make your kids like shows you can stand to watch 100 times. Rue likes Stepford Wives, River cottage Australia and The Cleveland show.
- No one cares if they wear odd socks. Or pajamas to daycare. They are kids, no point fighting with them if they dont want to get changed. (School aged children are another matter)
- Try not to be precious about posessions/ clothes. They wont last forever anyway. If they get dirty or stained just shrug and move on. This saves alot of stress, trust me.
- You can offer them the best food in the world, that doesnt mean they will eat it. Do your best and if you try three things and they refuse, hey, a biscuit is food.
i realised last week that i did alot of research on what to expect in their first year, but i have no idea what happens in Rues second year. I know they walk, talk a bit more…what else?!? After googling it a bit the thing that kept jumping out at me was that apparently at 12months you can stop bottles and formula. Its even recomended! I had no idea, i thought they had them until atleast 18months? But then when i thought about it it actually makes sense. Formula and bottles are meant to replace breastfeeding. Most babies start to wean off breastmilk at 12months so why would they still need a bottle?
Rue has taken water from a sippy cup from about 6months but i do use formula to help him sleep. I thought i would have a go at putting cows milk in his cup. Well, he likes it but i wouldnt say he is anywhere near ready to stop the warm bottle. Next phase will be to give him cold formula 30mins before bed i think. Gradually get him off them 🙂
What did you find out that threw you for a loop?